It might be wise to speak only occasionally rather than babbling on.
If you think carefully before you speak, pause and have a chance to bite your tongue then chances are that your delivery will be accurate your speech edited carefully and you will only speak sense.
Make sure that what you have to say has an impact and isn’t lost in the general hubbub of office clamor.
Be silent until you have something to offer.
Stupid people do not ask questions. Bored people do not ask questions. Lazy people do not ask any questions.
Asking questions is a very nice thing to do in a general way.It shows you are interested in your colleagues. But do make the questions genuine and sincere,worthwhile and kind.
Rule 32 : Don’t Bitch
Rule 31 : Don’t Gossip
Rule 30 : Look For Opportunities
It is not the person. It is their behavior. You can criticize the way they do their job, their timekeeping, their attitude and so on. But you can’t ever say they are lazy, ignorant,good for nothing.
You get the idea.
Not losing your temper does not mean not expressing emotion. You are entitled to say, “I find it extremely annoying when you eat all the chocolate cookies etc.”
- counts for something
-has an audience
-will make a difference
- will make them seem clever/intelligent/effective
- will win them approval etc.
The real reason for expressing an opinion is because you have been asked to. if you are asked , then say what you think. If you have not been asked then shut up.
Your opinion should almost have to be dragged from you. What you have to say is important and you don’t squander your opinions willy nilly.
Also make your opinion less like an opinion and more like an accepted fact. Don;t say “I think we should”, say “We should”. Don’t say “In my opinion the ZX3 is a good machine” instead say “The ZX3 is a good machine”.
- I think
- In my opinion
- I feel
- Take a long term view
- See it from the company’s point of view
- Remain impartial
- Remain Calm
- Be the diplomat
- Not take sides
- Stay independent
The more detached you appear to be the more senior you will come across.
If you are not doing the job well then you should be taken aside and your mistakes pointed out calmly and rationally. Anything else is abuse.
You are allowed to refuse abuse.You are allowed calmly and rationally to tell them to stop at once or you are entitled to use the full weight of the law.
You have to know when to stand your ground.
Standing your ground is about having standards, drawing a line in the sand and saying “I will put up with this but not this “.
Standing your ground is about being assertive. Being assertive is confidently stating your bottomline.
- I will not be spoken to like that
Your job is just a job. Yes you need the money etc. But it is just a job and there are others.
Having a bad day at work should not cause you to:
- lose sleep
- lose your appetite
- lose your sex drive
- smoke more
- Drink more
- take drugs
- get depressed
- get stressed
You have to learn to switch off, relax, not take it so seriously, enjoy it more and put things in perspective.
Get a hobby, get a life. You must work to live not live to work. Don’t take stuff home with you – learn to be assertive and say no. Put your family first. Spend time with your children. They will grow up so fast you will miss their precious childhood if you work through.
It is just a job
Identify these people be careful in your dealings with them
Rule 88 : Know the undercurrent and hidden agenda
Question the motives of everyone and everything. This does not mean you have to be paranoid. All you need to do is watch out for hidden agendas.
- Why is this happening
- is there anything I am missing
- who benefits from this- how are they benefiting
- what else could be going on
- can I benefit from this
- have the ear of the boss
- are trusted by the boss
- had been there quite some time
They are the real authority and you should pay homage to them.
You might speak from a worker’s point of view whereas they might speak on behalf of the company.
The more senior you go the less likely you are to:
-Talk about last night’s TV or any other issues that have no relevance to the work being done.Bosses tend to be much more focussed and less inclined to waste time.
-Babble on. Bosses tend to be more thoughtful and pause before speaking (at least the good ones do)
So if you are going to talk one step up, you need to be more thoughtful,talk about issues that are relevant, talk in terms of ‘we’ rather than ‘i’.
Acting one step up requires you to:
- be more certain of yourself
- be more mature
- be more confident
Do not waffle or use long expressions.
- how will this affect my coffee break
- will this mean I can still have my vacation
- will I have to work harder,longer
- will I score any kudos from this
No, instead you will think:
- is this better for the department
- will the company do well out of this
- can we bosses sell this to the workforce
- are our customers going to be happy with this
Get the message?See the point?.
You will see things from the company perspective and not from your own personal petty little desk footprint.
- see the big picture
- see the entire picture
- picture the picture
- direct the picture
- produce the picture
- stop being an extra
If you are prepared to do the four things you will fly.
-only submit a report occasionally
- make really sure your report will actually work
- make sure your name is prominently displayed.
- make sure the report will be seen not only by your boss but also his boss
_ it does not have to be a report it can be an article in the company newsletter.
The best way to get noticed however is to be very very good at your job. And the best way to be good at your job is to be totally dedicated to doing your job and ignoring all the rest.
Keep your eye on the ball and you are already ahead of the rest.
Yes you have to do the work and do it supremely well. But your eye should already be on the next level and every activity you indulge should merely be a cog in your plan to move up.
The rules player would have got their work done by lunch time so as to spent the rest of the day to study for the next promotion, to assess the competition , to prepare reports and so on.
Carving out a niche means spotting a useful area that no one else has spotted. It might be as simple as being great with spreadsheets or report writing.
Carving out a niche for yourself often takes you out of the normal range of office activities.You get to move around more.
Carving out a niche for yourself means you get noticed not just by your boss but by other bosses as well.
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