He who is of calm and happy nature will hardly feel the pressure of age, but to him who is of an opposite disposition youth and age are equally a burden.
It is said that you resist what you need the most. So for example if you are reading an article and skip a paragraph about patience, you had better take note of your actions. Are you the kind of person that could do with more patience.
However it is also said that when the student is ready the teacher will come. So if you find yourself gravitating towards something it could be that you are finally ready. A teacher need not be a wizened old person carrying a beatific smile and wearing white clothes. It could be anyone, anything, even your own past experiences if you are prone to reflection.
One funny thing is that you may not even realize you are ready.
We all have an important power within ourselves. The spark that sets fire to the tinder of good intentions, plans, dreams … all of which are of no value unless acted upon. Marshall Goldsmith calls this the Mojo or the ‘spirit’. Seth Godin calls this ‘instigation capital’ a play of words on the traditionally accepted definitions of economic capital such as ‘capital’ itself, ‘social capital’ and so on. In his powerfully motivating books “Rhinoceros Success” and “Advanced Rhinocerology” Scott Alexander provides the metaphor of a 6000 pound hulking rhinoceros with its 2 inch thick armor plated skin charging through the jungle intent only on capturing its prey, obstacles be dammed. Anthony Robbins, the original motivational super star, urges us to take massive action.
Ever felt overwhelmed at managing people either as a project manager, a supervisor, heck even as a parent.
Humans are the most complex creatures in the universes. Just like no 2 faces are alike no 2 humans are alike, no matter how tempting it is for managers to treat humans like machines.
There are several classics such as Dale Carnegie’s ’How To Win Friends & Influence People’ or Robert Cialdini’s ‘Influence The Psychology of Persuasion’ that I would recommend.
There is no getting around that people management is a crucial skill for anyone wishing to achieve substantial success.
This is a complex subject but there is still one thing that you can do that will be a game changer. If you would like to know more about the concept of distlilling success to a few critical things read further.
Wyatt Woodsmall a prominent psychologist and NLP practitioner once conducted a six month long research on 50 successful entrepreneurs in the UK on the factors for entrepreneurial success. It turns they could be boiled down to the same four techniques that serve as the cornerstone of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP for short.
Incidentally these are also the 4 steps of Anthony Robbins’ ultimate success formula.
Here they are.
1. Know your outcome. A surprising number of people don’t have a clue about what they want. And if they do it is more likely about what they don’t want rather than what they want. Frame your outcome in positive terms and not negatively. Your subconscious mind simply does not do well with goals framed with negative terms.
Wyatt suggests we use evidence procedures to quantify our outcome. In other words be specific. If you don’t know what your outcome is how do you know when you achieve it.
2. Develop sensory acuity to know whether you are getting closer to your outcome or farther away. Wyatt suggests we use short feedback loops. A great story that comes to my mind is Motorola’s Iridium satellite project. 10 years in the making, when the project finally went live, Iridium declared bankruptcy within 2 years. The problem, the business plan was never updated with the changing scenario around the world. Mobile telephony was getting more widespread and cheaper. But the cost of the satellite phone: more than 10 dollars a minute!
3. Be flexible in your behavior. If you are not achieving your outcome then change your behavior not just attempt to work harder. “Change conquers the world not force” Wyatt Woodsmall.
4. Take action. Oh yes, sorry to break the bad news. The final step is to take MASSIVE ACTION. I am not a slacker but have problem getting started.There is an excellent book out there that I recommend if you need to get motivated. It is ‘Advanced Rhinocerology’ by Scott Alexander. I read the first half of this book in one sitting one night. Next day I was so pumped up I got off to a roaring start. I know motivation is not permanent but neither is bathing as Zig Ziglar would say.
So here you go, these are the four essential NLP techniques.