Behind Defeat And Delusion

This is a subject we do not like to talk about and suitably so, especially if it is ours. This is quite normal I think, and talking about it does not change it. Taking steps to overcome the dead emotions which failure sometimes brings must be dealt with for us to recover and get back on the road to success “after failure”.

Everybody makes potholes and fails at sometimes in their life. If they tell you they have never had “failure”, they are telling a big one, I think. It is a common aspect of life and it isn’t going to change. It does not have to be anything big or destructive to living a good life, but if we are human, we can look back and see some places, we could have done a whole lot better.

Sometimes we fail because we gave up on something before we gave it time to work. We fail sometimes because we look at others and what they have done, not realizing that we cannot compare our own life’s work to anybody; we must strive for our own way of and pursuing life things. Anything we do in life must have a plan, a starting point, a progression period and then the final results. Growing personallyis something that we all need at some point in our life. Sometimes we must change our goals during our progress and that is why we do an assessment every now and then. Take for instance a marriage. When we get married, we have a plan to work at it, make it beautiful, and feed it with passion and know it takes some give and take. Yet so many times we forget ,we get busy with other life things and forget to feed it, we forget it needs care, sometimes more later, than sooner. What do you know; somebody is unhappy out the blue. Sometimes it is too late, sometimes it can be fixed and sometimes it seems too much neglect was the final draw and we have to deal with what we call “failure”

Someone who is lazy and doesn’t want to work for what they get…could be called a failure. Life is not going to just hand any of us anything. It doesn’t work that way. We must work for our lunchas nothing is free. An addiction is another aspect we can call failure; it doesn’t have to be drugs or alcohol. It can be spending too much money; it can be spending too much time on the job. It can be taking too much time off the job, you know; sick days; too many of them; all of a sudden, no job. It can be giving someone else a hard time and not having respect for our fellow man. Whatever it is named; if it is done often can be called failure…we can overcome it and “live again” if we take notice to our needs. In our Change we need to look at all aspects of our situation and not get too down on ourselves.

How do we begin to get our life on tract after failure? When it happens we have to really analyze if it is truly “failure”. Sometimes mistakes get named failure. If we keep doing something over and over and it winds up costing us great consequences it is likely failure and not just a mistake. A mistake is something you did unintentionally and you normally do not do it again. We learn from our mistakes and take them as part of life to help us grow. If we repeatedly do something it is time for us to get a professional to help us find out why we are duplicating the same things over and over before it cost us too much.

To me and I am not giving you professional help you must seek that yourself, but I am giving you hope that there is help and I have seen healing for our failures through or change if we want it. To me, failure is where one has notoriously doing something that they knew was causing themselves harm or someone else and they do it anyway. There is still a way to recover. There is always hope until we die and we can be healed of our failures and become new again. There are Therapist, Counselors and Psychologists who are trained to help us in our endeavors as well a Personal Growth experts. I am not either but I do love to see recovery and study self improvement and I work on myself everyday….I’m not perfect …doubt I will ever be but at least I am working on me!


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